Ambrose A. Carr Jr.

Died August 29, 2020

Amby Carr was a gentle man of deep integrity who always had a twinkle in his eye. I first met him when he joined the Troupe for the 1971 Mikado. My husband, Tom, and I cemented our friendship with Amby and his delightful wife, Nancy, over more than 40 years of summers near the ocean in Quogue, LI. Summering in Quogue all his life, Amby eventually became Commodore of the yacht club and then President of the beach club. He was an avid tennis player. In his later years on the courts, I particularly loved his phrase “Age and treachery will beat youth and speed!” He also loved skiing and delighted in teaching friends’ children how to ski.

Born in Brooklyn in 1931, Amby went to the College of Holy Cross and then the NYU Business School. After he and Nancy were married, they moved to Manhasset where they raised their three children, Paula, Margot, and Amby. Both Paula and Margot followed in their father’s footsteps and joined the Troupe. Amby worked for IBM for 33 years, primarily in the area of sales and marketing

Amby was a man of many interests and enthusiasms, including mathematics, theology and music. Many of his friends have fond memories of his tenor voice belting out joyous songs to the plinking accompaniment of his gut bucket. After Amby retired, he made the famous Camino de Santiago pilgrimage walk. With various family and friends he completed the 490 mile walk, from the French Pyrenees to the Cathedral of St. James in Compostela de Santiago, Spain, in six stages over five years. The final stage was completed when he was 79.

Amby passed away on August 29, 2020 at the age of 89. Predeceased by Nancy, he leaves his children, Paula Carr Cummings (Alexander), Margot Carr (Dana Robinson), Ambrose (Elizabeth) and his four grandchildren, Ian and Sophie Cummings and Maisie and Libby Carr.

— Michèle Wood Ruhm